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An identity theft expert tells the story of the duplicity and betrayal that inspired her career and nearly destroyed her familyAxton Betz Hamilton grew up in small town Indiana in the early '90s When she was 11 years old her parents both had their identities stolen Their credit ratings were ruined and they were constantly fighting over money This was before the age of the Internet when identity theft became commonplace so authorities and banks were clueless and reluctant to help Axton's parentsAxton's family changed all of their personal information and moved to different addresses but the identity thief followed them wherever they went Convinced that the thief had to be someone they knew Axton and her parents completely cut off the outside world isolating themselves from friends and family Axton learned not to let anyone into the house without explicit permission and once went as far as chasing a plumber off their property with a knifeAs a result Axton spent her formative years crippled by anxiety uarantined behind the closed curtains in her childhood home She began starving herself at a young age in an effort to blend in her appearance could be nothing short of perfect or she would be scolded by her mother who had become paranoid and consumed by how others perceived the familyYears later her parents' marriage still shaken from the theft Axton discovered that she too had fallen prey to the identity thief but by the time she realized she was already thousands of dollars in debt and her credit was ruined

10 thoughts on “The Less People Know About Us

  1. says:

    This is a truly twisted tale of loss and betrayal in small town Portland Indiana I don't know if I could recommend it to others because it's so frustrating This family reacts to trauma by becoming paranoid and self isolating Even though identity theft was a new type of crime when the story started I hate how apathetic everyone seems to be the family relatives the police and friends Everyone except for the daughter who couldn't do anything except live in fear of whoever was doing this to their family She does become an expert on identity theft in later life so some good came out of it

  2. says:

    A true crime memoir? Sign me up Axton’s parents’ identities were stolen when she was a young child and the family was in ruins not just financially The rest of her childhood was riddled with anxiety and a changed way of life Eventually Axton goes to college and finds out her identity was also stolen when she was just 11 years old and a loved one did the stealing This book was featured on NPR It is THAT good and I found Axton’s story gripping and her voice powerfulI received a complimentary copy from the publisherMany of my reviews can also be found on instagram wwwinstagramcomtarheelreader

  3. says:

    This is a book which put me into an entire day of self uestioning Is it 4 star in message? Is it 4 star in language skills? Yes on both Was it a fun book to read in any sense of fun by definition Absolutely NOT It's rather akin to being tasked with observation for a medical condition Like sitting in one spot to track and describe an ill animal that cannot stop snapping or chasing its tail in endless circles Or like watching a corner or traffic crisscross by 3 or 4 intersections maze way where you know a traditional hourly accident occurs Sitting there to watch the aftermath of the next collusion? Something like that And most times that would rather intrigue With this particular 3 sided family and dance of intersect? NOT so much Anyone who reads my reviews of record for years here knows how I feel about wire hanger parent stories I despise them Well then why am I not despising this one? Axton clearly expresses her disdain and disaffection just as much More at times And her Father? Sorry I can't deal with this so I think I'll go raise some donkeys and stay out to do the hay baling? A pure example of total obscuring and escaping to self blindWhat a dance this family did And don't kid yourself we ALL suffer financial reversal from this Not as much as Axton Never that muchAny will give you spoilers I almost DNF about 12 way through Especially when Axton was underminded in her pride of appearance and denigrated in commenting by her parents Hearing those getaway tales for schools etc got too too negative for me But I saw very early in this book that there was a dissociation occurring that was not being noted Most people who have little psychology background wouldn't be musing DSM 5 criteria So that's the only thing that kept me going Because I sure was And was I correct? Not entirely but at least I recognized about 12 of the iceberg beyond the tipNot entirely correct in its depth But I knew that a grave mental illness existed And gave it the appropriate nomenclature Yet I certainly didn't get the duality achieved The last 3 chapters of the book were 4 plus stars That she made a career out of this Kudos to Axton Betz Hamilton Talk about making lemonade when all you own is lemonsWhen I was done I was very glad I read the book It's given me tons to ponder in afterward Like those Moms who appear on Say Yes to the Dress and then consistently dis their own daughter and especially her joy and tasteBeware this is NOT a fun read Knowing every single place Purdue especially that Axton lived also made me view the screenings she did within her own eyes She is far far affected long term than even SHE knows

  4. says:

    Let me warn you before you open this book DON'T GET SPOILED Multiple Goodreads reviews and even a coworker who listened to Betz Hamilton's episode of the podcast Criminal totally ruined the big reveal for me Try to stay away from anything that smacks of a spoiler and go in with a clear mind Betz Hamilton's story is truly crazy She grew up in Portland Indiana a small farming town to a relatively poor family side note she constantly refers to Portland with no state appellation like it's a city people have heard of I definitely thought she was referring to either Maine or Oregon for a good chunk of the book Her dad was not a farm boy but uickly took to the farming lifestyle after inheriting his wife's dad's property Her mom had a variety of middle class jobs But soon enough the bills started pouring in the water was shut off strange things started to happen Her dad was baffled at this where was their money going? Who was spending it and on what? Her mom uickly realized what was going on their identities were stolen It was fraud They had no idea who the culprit was but they were financially underwater and fast Axton's parents began to drill a sense of paranoia into her Don't open the door for anyone You see anyone on our property you pick up the nearest weapon and call dad This obviously causes a lot of trauma for young Axton As she gets older she gets lost in academia letting that be her release she actually goes into the field of identity theft research contributing to the relatively sparse body of work and uickly getting invited to speak at prestigious conferences and universities But one day after a series of heartwrenching family events she discovers who the identity thief was all along It's not a pretty revelation I enjoyed listening to this book although I have to say that I came into the story already knowing what happens The reveal wasn't shocking to me but the whole situation still baffles me Going into spoiler mode in 321 view spoilerHow could her mom be spending all of this money? What was she even spending it on? How was life enjoyable for her living in constant debt and seeing her daughter and husband miserable on top of it all? How was this even slightly worth any joy she could have gotten from material purchases? Am I the only one who thought the ending suggesting she had MPDDID was totally bunk???? hide spoiler

  5. says:

    I hate to rate a memoir But this one was lacking for me in some way Too much information in some places far too little in others I guess maybe my issue is that the focus is about Identity Theft when in fact it should be about Mental Illness

  6. says:

    This blew my mind An absolutely bizarre story that proves once again that real life can be outlandish than fiction This story of identity theft is so much crazier than I expected I actually can’t believe the author was able to get to a point where she could write about it To say it enveloped her entire life is an understatement It made her who she is but also upended everything she knew A fast read page turner real life thriller I am not sure how to classify it Definitely a very personal account and I applaud her for sharing I am still shocked and speechless and I only read about it she lived it

  7. says:

    If you go in thinking this is a mystery you need to reframe mystery not as a whodunnit and of a whydunnit Axton's life was flipped over and over again due to identity theft that plagued her small family from the time she was born Even when she managed to get away from her tiny Indiana town and to college the identity theft followed her It wasn't until her mother's death that the truth of who her mother was and what she did and did not do came to light This was engrossing and saddening both for the author who experienced it as well as for her mother who was extremely mentally ill That doesn't come up in those words but readers will know and understand The fact of the matter is mom died before everything came to light and since she can't explain herself trying to understand the whys or hows isn't possible What's left are the pieces which lead to a whole other side of her life she'd never been truthful about I couldn't put this one down as it falls suarely in the bloodless crime genre I love It's a memoir too and the marriage works well here It would make for a great read alike to EDUCATED for the family story as well as to DUPED for the ways in which people you think you know can lead entirely different lives in ways that seem surprisingly seamless even when they're not

  8. says:

    I heard about this book on Fresh Air and was super excited I thought it would be of a mystery but it’s easy early on to figure out who the perpetrator is For how fascinating the story is it should be a engaging read but something about the writing or pacing was just off

  9. says:

    This is a WOW story and not in a good way This story true events took place in the citycounty that I've lived in all my life I vaguely remember Pam Betz; insurance agency and bookkeeper I'm shocked to learn of the manipulation lies and decept that took place over so many years But I truly hurt for the young child girl teenage Axton that can't have a life do over that suffered emotionally as well as physically She would have been welcomed at my meager dinner table anytime Should I have the opportunity to meet this author I would tell her how proud of her that I am that she rose above of her circumstances obtained an education pursued the buried truth and had the fortitude to put her painful story out in print for all to see If it helps or inspires only one person it is worth it

  10. says:

    SPOILERSThis book isn’t about Identity Theft It’s about mental illness and childhood emotional abuse Mental illness is only brought up near the end as an afterthought it’s not DID it’s like borderline personality disorder I don’t really know what to say about this book except that it would make a very interesting magazine article or TV special but as a book it just didn’t work for me Also we’re we supposed to not realize it was the mom until that was revealed because it was pretty clear all along that it was